Why Do We Kill Each Other?

I had a dream last night and it brought so much memories flooding back. Yet this dream made me stop to ponder - why do people fight over what a simple 'Sorry' could have sufficed. Or better still, why are we often mad over somethings we can live without.




If you go back in history, You will find that most of the wars and disagreements that has plagued man has been all about a minor disagreement that escalated either because the actors were too big to bend over or the challenge of having too many people making inputs for something that is a clear cut issue. So you find that when such events occurs, everyone brings their world view to bear, they extrapolate and interpolate to tell you why you must not accede to this or accept less; mind you no one really cares what and where their individuality leaves us. This is true today in the war among nations, communities, persons and those within. And it leaves the decision maker subsumed in a cloud of noise where all around him is haze - dense cloud of personality fights and most time never about the real issues.

So did you just have a fight with your partner or spouse? Or is it with your boss, colleague or subordinate. What about that scramble between you and your elder brother? The truth is that, we fight over simple things, yes perhaps they have repeated themselves over and over again, and have turned into an albatross. Still you must see beyond the immediate, hold your head steady and ask if the fight is even worth it. At times, all we just need to do is to take a walk, even though we want to hit back whether with those carefully selected choice words. At other occasions, we want to be the one to swallow the bitter pill; bottom-line is, never allow yourself get into a situation where because of those involved or those you have engaged in the process that your decision becomes clogged. Always leave the exit door clear of obstructions - that is indeed what it is meant for.

Don't tarry in hate or pain for too long, because it eats you and gradually makes that simple matter seem so intractable. Carry a bottle of water for a minute, 10, 20 minutes and up to an hour; feel how the same bottle becomes heavier gradually. The same happens, when you allow the anger or hate to fester, it eats into you, saps your staying power and then leaves you VULNERABLE. And that is the problem, we kill each other once we get to this stage. So, if you ever wondered why a once caring brother would plot the other's death or inflict pain, it is because in the heart of man is the ability to love and also hate equally and when anger comes in the mix, you can bet yourself that the combination is often not palatable. This been more so as anger brings out the best in us - good or evil.

So I ask you; Is that issue worth debasing your very essence, is it enough to throw baby and water away? Indeed, you may be justified by the actions that precipitated this, but when time elapses, will you still stay glorified? Come on, its not that bad, yes, it is not. You may not forgive now, but you can stay the hand.

Nugget: The Man in us is that, who can kill, but decide to save - It begins with a decision not to lift that hand.