I had a discourse with a colleague some few
days ago and in the course of our discourse was brought to the realization that
our last post here had a tinge of masculinity in it. I was alarmed! The beauty of that
conversation was while I did not see some of those points initially, that
relationship helped me see a part that was oblivious to me.
Going further, I was
told of a story of a software team that was engaged to produce a ground
breaking app, the anecdote goes thus;
All the project team members were senior
managers; all were men, so they worked on the project and really advanced in
it. They were getting ready to start on the development of the new app, so the
project manager asked his assistant (a woman) to come in to record the timeline
and other usual project stuff. Thus, she is sitting in the meeting and
listening to the guys talk about the app; at some point, she asks her boss if
she can say something, the boss obliged her;
Mind you, the app was supposed to be
activated when the phone was put in the pocket, so she asked them: "Is
this app targeted at everybody?", they replied 'yes'; She said have you
calculated your numbers on total number of phone owners, again the reply was
affirmative; and then she gave a damning report - hear her, "Well I can
assure you the app will absolutely not meet the projected target".
Everyone was looking at her like: "Err...
we have the most brilliant financial gurus of the company here and the
marketing geniuses, and the product conception whiz kids, what is this
assistant lady saying". Hmm! Are you wondering? It’s pretty obvious -
"Ladies don’t have pockets".
Exactly!!! They don't put their phones in pockets, they put them in
handbags, but none of the guys actually thought about that, it seemed so
oblivious to them
Are you here? Good, now follow this
closely, you would say the mural of the story is that we use as diversified a
group as possible, for we might miss critical aspects of an application or
service or what have you if we don't. Yet this story simply reminds us of the
need to use our relationships. You don’t have it all, you have relationships
because they help to make the load easier and also stoke our strength to its fullness.
The best you can make of it is when you recognize it and use it with wisdom.
The use is not to achieve our selfish aims,
No! Our relationships at whatever level is for a greater good, it is in service
both to us and our community. We must find the good in our relationship and
make the most of it at all times.
So now January is ending and you are
beginning to lose steam on your avowed goals, perhaps its time you go back to
the relationship you promised to engender with God our creator at the beginning
of 2015 and find strength in this time of need. Remember we said we will work
with understanding in this year. There is still time to work the lines. Just
make use of your relationships.
Nugget: A relationship is not a dead
sentence. It is a friendship meant to support, enliven and make us optimal. If
I am neither to you, please do us a favour - move on. Make your relationships
count.
Again as i was going through ds lines of passage,it dawn on me that relationship is dt special antidote that is added to dt frienship for optimal and positive output. I think we must begin to understand communication in gender diversity. because one particular gender cant know it all. "It takes two diiferent sex to tangles". Love n renew ur union wit God
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