The world has taught us to keep score.
"I called first."
"They never replied."
"I gave more."
"They did not appreciate it."
Without realising it, we begin to measure every act of
kindness against the possibility of a return. Love becomes an investment
portfolio, and every relationship starts to look like a balance sheet.
Then, somewhere along the journey, I began to wonder if I
had misunderstood love.
What if love was never meant to be a transaction?
What if it was simply meant to be an expression of who we
are?
A smile offered because it was genuine.
Encouragement spoken because someone needed it.
A meal shared.
A ride given.
A prayer whispered for someone who may never know.
Not because these things guarantee closeness. Not because
they secure loyalty. Not because they will be returned with interest.
Simply because love has found another opportunity to
breathe.
There is a freedom that comes when we stop asking every act
of kindness to justify itself.
Ironically, we become more generous.
More patient.
More present.
We stop trying to control outcomes and start paying
attention to people.
This is not naïveté. Love should still have wisdom. Kindness
should still have boundaries. Not every invitation should be accepted, and not
every relationship should be pursued.
But when we choose to love, perhaps we can do so without
quietly attaching an invoice.
That changes us.
The strange thing is that life also becomes lighter.
You enjoy conversations without trying to predict where they
will lead.
You celebrate people without needing to possess them.
You can admire beauty without demanding permanence.
You become grateful for moments instead of anxious about
futures.
Perhaps that is what I am learning.
Love.
Then live.
Let your kindness be sincere.
Let your generosity remain free.
Let your peace come from the person you are becoming, not
from the response you receive.
Because some of the most beautiful things we will ever give
this world will never come back to us.
They were never supposed to.
They were simply meant to pass through us.
Nugget
Love is at its freest when it stops negotiating. Living is at its richest when it stops waiting for love to be repaid.
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ReplyDeleteThat's Agape you just described.
The love that's produced from the God nature.
Love is not a trade
DeleteFirst off, thank you for sharing this insightful post.
ReplyDeleteReading it made me reflect on my own actions and asked myself whether I have unconsciously given, done, or helped someone with an expectation of receiving something in return. I could not honestly answer, because sometimes we want some sort of feedback for our deeds as humans.
While genuine love should not require payment, we are humans, and it is natural to desire some level of reciprocity in certain situations. Omoh, this is a delicate issue that requires taken a closer look in the mirror.
Thinking about it now, I believe we would all be more content if we love without expectation.
Thank you again for sharing such a thought provoking perspective.
Interestingly, KRU, we do not step into these shoes all at once. We grow into them. Patience teaches us. Trust steadies us. Love teaches us that its deepest nature is giving. In time, we discover that its fullest expression is living in fullness each day. Negotiations and expectations have a way of draining that fullness, while love quietly restores it.
DeleteI agree, thank you AEandE
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