Finding Balance

I was in the cooking mode some days ago, so I set out to make some purchase at the market. One of the items I was buying needed to be weighed; so began the arduous task of me and the seller trying not to be outwitted. The task of course was more tedious as we neared the requested weight. Phew! That was some experience. We were looking for the balance that did not tilt in the other person's favour.

So I finished cooking and was having a chat with a friend who just had a terrible response from trying to lend a helping hand. We agreed that not everyone will appreciate you or your effort and concluded that we must not allow such response to tear one apart.  If you are wired to be helpful,this will not stop you; indeed, It may shake you belief and thought. Again like in my market experience, we just need to find balance. Don't allow how people respond to you determine how and when you reach out. It is a trick to make you loose your edge. Refuse to allow the balance be in the negative direction. Yes, negative energy is no balance, it is bile and it ends you in the pit. A pit fraught with bitterness and spite. That is no balance, it is death.

Do you remember driving a car with the tyres not been balanced, how was the driving experience? For the love of yourself and also your car, you quickly fix the car. Note 'Love', is the first and greatest balance, once you find and utilize it "not exploitative", you are well on you way to balance.

If you are with me, you will also agree that when we go to the mall, if we are not careful, we will go home with unnecessary items and perhaps a load of debt. Our eyes will find the things we don't need and it takes prudent management of self not to fall off the scale. Note 'Prudent' not simple, for the simple will never outgrow pains, suffering and cry.

Have you been accused falsely by others or not paid proper attention on what you deserve. Do you in such case waste your time trying to make the assailant see reasons with you. Wait! No need, perceptions are choices people make, you cannot change it, just be you and you will come out smiling. That situation is just a mirage set to unbalance you, stay fixed on the mark and find balance.

So don't allow that hate settle in you, find and get a hold on you, balance says its normal, normalize your love, your support, make it without unnecessary hangover. Find strength in balance for too little or much of anything is bad. Do not be too caught up with your 'challenges' (yes not problems), and lose your sight on the vision. Never allow the pull from that negative feedback get a hold on you, for in the battlefield of the mind, you win base on your leaning first not just your ability, hence with resolve we can reach the top no matter how un-tempered we are.

Hmm, not one of our usual patterns I suppose. Well it's simple, temper all you do and pursue with a tinge of restraint, stay in the lane and just find the balance that keeps even you engaged.

Nugget:  Do not lose vision of the goal, yet pursue it with the best of you - In love, for therein, there is no unfair means.